During this time of grief and sorrow over the horrific murder of George Floyd, and so many other stolen black lives, it is hard to know the right things to say, knowing that nothing will be good enough. Witnessing the cries of George Floyd's last words will haunt me forever, and it feels necessary to add my voice to the millions of people globally who are standing side by side with Black Lives Matter in denouncing white supremacy in all it's ugly forms. I hope the uprising of so many outraged and grief stricken people continues to bring awareness to the 400 years of institutional racism that has stolen the lives of so many Black, Indigenous and People of Color. Awareness that results in deep, concrete changes in how we live together on this planet.
I would like to quote 2 very wise friends and teachers of Interpersonal Neurobiology (IPNB), Bonnie Badenoch and Jo Hadlock-King:
"We need to confront our own complicity in this tragedy. In this IPNB community dedicated to compassion and care for all, we white people can miss and deny that we are socialized into racism. We can be completely blind to our privileged position as the ones who belong. With work, we can become conscious. By attending to Black voices, we white people can listen to and trust their account of their experiences, and see how our behavior affects them. This calls for humility and deep listening in the midst of our privileged status. We will begin to get it and then forget, only to begin again. With work, we can become sturdy in order to be of ongoing support in this movement towards justice". (from "Nurturing the Brain with the Heart in Mind" Newsletter, June 10, 2020.)
May we all find the strength and commitment to be trusted anti-racist allies as we stand side by side with our Black sisters and brothers, facing these challenges for the long haul, together, heart to heart.
"Racism is a heart disease, and it is curable". -Ruth King, black activist, author, mindfulness teacher,
Below are some resources that I think are invaluable aids to deepen our understanding of racism so we can hold and support each other in this revolution of our hearts.
Krista Tippett: On Being: Talking About Whiteness
Mindful of Race: Transforming Racism from the Inside Out, Ruth King
My Grandmothers Hands. Resmaa Menakem
Tears We Cannot Stop: A Sermon for White America, Michael Eric Dyson
White Fragility: Why It's so Hard for White People to Talk About Racism, Robin J. Diangelo
How to be an Antiracist, Ibram X. Kendi
Biased: Uncovering the Hidden Prejudice That Shapes What We See, Think, and Do, Jennifer Eberhardt
Me and White Supremacy: A 28-Day Challenge to Combat Racism, Change the World, Layla Saad
The New Jim Crow, Michelle Alexander